Review

The Secret Life of the American Teenager

Common Sense Media says

Heartfelt drama tackles teen sex, pregnancy, parenthood.
Age
13
Quality
 

  • Although the show revolves around the issues of teen sex, pregnancy, and parenthood -- which are complicated and often controversial -- it does so in a heartfelt, thoughtful way, introducing a variety of perspectives about teen sexual behavior and looking at how teens' choices impact both them and others.
  • The characters are a realistically flawed bunch, often making iffy decisions -- but the show explores the impact of those decisions, and overall most of the characters mean well more than they don't. The teen characters live in an upper-middle class environment and come from various racial/ethnic backgrounds.
  • Not applicable.
  • Very frequent discussions about having sex, engaging (or not engaging) in sexual activity, teen pregnancy and parenthood, and other related issues. Teens are shown kissing/making out, but not much more. One teen boy has multiple "conquests" and was molested as a child by his father.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this drama from the creator of 7th Heaven centers on the consequences of a teenage girl's unexpected pregnancy. It addresses the various ways that teens think about and cope with sex (including abstinence and promiscuity), pregnancy, and ultimately parenthood, all from a relatively upper-middle class point of view. Although the themes can be controversial, the heartfelt way the topics are introduced provides a good foundation for discussing them with teens and even older tweens. Expect some mild language (words like "laid" are used to describe sex) and specific references to Christianity and the bible.


This review of The Secret Life of the American Teenager was written by
Age
13
Based on 91 parent & educator reviews:
  • 46% say sexual content is an issue

Most useful reviews by all members

Teen, 15 years old
February 4, 2009
 
From a teen who can actually spell, and cares.
I know you all may think that your teenager is an innocent kid, but for crying out loud, get a grip! I can honestly say that about 9 out of 10 kids in my high school have either had sex, smoked pot, drank alcohol, etc. Behind their parents' backs! If you really think about it, teenagers aren't that stupid. I can say from being in high school only one semester, these kids are really thinking about sex; some freshman are even pregnant! This gives a perspective for them on how other people deal with it; and if watched appropriately, your child can learn from the mistakes of others! For example, I am a virgin and plan to be that way by viewing what Amy (the main character) is going through. Watching anything that is new and possibly offensive is all about keeping an open mind and REALLY seeing all sides of the story. Kids are thinking about sex a LOT. I'll admit that even I do. Keep in mind that the average age of the first time teens have sex is at 15! TALK TO YOUR TEENAGER ABOUT SEX! It may seem awkward, but it is necessary! My parents never did, but my boyfriends step-mother took the initiative to do so. We talked about morals and respecting each others' values and still having a strong relationship. I can honestly say that I do want to have sex, but I'm waiting until I feel mentally, emotionally, and physically ready to do so and my boyfriend completely respects that! So before you slander and judge the show, watch it for yourself. Sure the acting may not be the greatest, but if you keep an open mind you WILL see where I'm coming from. And if you aren't open minded yet, step out of the stone age! It's the two thousands! People are coming up with brilliant things EVERY DAY! Thanks for reading, and have a nice day! :]

Adult
July 21, 2009
 
Terrible show with mixed messages, not good for anybody
To be honest, I have only seen a few episodes of this show because it's so unspeakably bad I have to leave the room rather to refrain from speaking my mind while my sister (a fan) watches the show. First, let me comment on the quality of the TV show. To say the acting is bad is a gross understatement. I can't even think of a comparison to how bad the acting is. It's just that bad. To be fair, any actor would have a hard time working with the inconsistent, unrealistic, practically nonsensical drivel that passes for dialog in this show. Watch one episode (without the kids) and ask yourself how many people actually talk like that? The story is contrived, predictable and uninspired. The character development is disgraceful. Just when you get to know a character, he or she says something completely out of character just to drive home some "point" or put someone in their place. Characters who at first were kind turn out to be just as mean and petty as everyone else. The two characters who use people the most both turn out to have unresolved "daddy issues." The writers treat the characters like they're all the same person raised in different circumstances. The writers must have absolutely no knowledge of biology, psychology, or basic human nature. This show is too bad even to laugh at. It's just that awful. Now on to the messages. Many people give this show credit for having dialog about sex. Having an honest, open, and complete dialog about sex is one thing. Filling dialog with people talking about sex is quite another. All anyone ever talks about is sex. Yes, teens will sometimes talk about sex, but not nearly to this extent, and not in this manner. The phony sex "dialog" is not my biggest complaint, however. The cruelty and immaturity of all the characters (including the adults) goes to Desperate Housewives levels. All they ever think about are their immediate needs and wants, unless they're having a conveniently placed worry about the future that's forgotten by the next scene. Worst of all, the show gives mixed messages. At the end of the show the actors say "It might seem like everyone is having sex, but they're not..." but EVERYONE ON THE SHOW IS DOING IT!!! That's as bad as if Michael Vick said "It's bad to hurt dogs" after each bloody dogfight. The hypocrisy is repulsive! The last statistic I read said that half of all teenagers have not had sex by the time they graduate high school. If this steaming pile of a show was an example, 95% of teens would be having sex, and having it in contrived, stupid circumstances. Finally, let me address the issue of teen pregnancy. Even though it's a subject in every episode, it's dealt with so superficially as to be practically useless. Maybe I missed too many episodes, but that girl had one easy pregnancy, and oh, how quickly her body returned to a size 0. How unfortunate that her baby only stops crying when Daddy is near. Could the writers not think of even one REAL health issue that afflicts babies? How unbelievably stupid! The bottom line is this show is absolutely awful in every respect. It's too inconsistent and hypocritical to be a positive influence, and it's too stupid and poorly made to be entertaining. If you want a good show about teen pregnancy, watch Juno. If you have extremely low standards and limit your activities to staring at glowing rectangles with moving images on them, watch Secret Life. No. Don't. Battlefield Earth is better than Secret Life of an American Teenager.

Teen, 14 years old
June 22, 2010
 
These guys need to go to sex theripy
I just happen to turn the channel and the first thing I hear is "Wanna do it?" I mean thats not realistic. If they want realistic, they should see 16 and pregnat. All they talk about on the show is sex and planning to have sex, and like three girls already got pregnat and one already has a kid! I know thats what happens sometimes, but the kids on this show are snobby and think its cool. It doesn't teach good messages because they make it look like everyone who's anyone does it.

Teen, 15 years old
May 2, 2011
 
Unrealistic show that sugarcoats important issues
I used to kind of like this show in the first season. But it's gotten much worse. It focuses almost completely on sex-nobody talks about anything else. Language IS mild and nothing is actually shown, but I have to question the appropriateness of a show for teens that talks constantly about sex. And it shows a very narrow view of how teens really are-everyone lives in nice, comfortable homes. Nobody seems to have problems until they have sex. Except for Ricky and Adrian, these are all practically perfect kids who get everything they want. They all behave like perfect rich kids who think of nothing but sex. And I can't say I like any of the characters very much. None of them are good role models, and it's unlikely any real teen lives as perfect a life as these kids do, so teens watching this show may get the wrong idea about what it's REALLY like to become pregnant in high school. Everything is too easy for the kids (everyone except Ricky has understanding, caring parents, enough money, etc.), and while they say how hard it is to be raising a child at their age, we don't really see any of the hardships. We don't see how hard it is for Amy to have John, or for Adrian to have decided to have her baby. They seem pretty happy. Even when the girls' parents split up twice everything is sugar-coated. The whole show gives a very unrealistic view of life for teens growing up in America, and it's hard to feel any empathy with these kids because everything is handed to them on a silver platter. In all, I think that while the sex material is nothing to new to teens, it is NOT a good show to use as education about teen pregnancy, because it doesn't show the issue as it really is. Teens really won't learn any real life lessons from this show.

Adult
January 26, 2010
 
terrible for young teens
I'm nineteen and I completely fear for those who are in jr. high and even up to tenth grade who watch this and think that this is an acceptable way to behave and think. All it talks about is how every person wants to have sex always and how its completely normal for young teens to be having sex. Did they not learn from the one who had a baby that they are not ready for this? I first thought this would be positive and teach kids why not to engage in such activity but have instead been outraged.

Parent of 15 year old
January 28, 2010
 
Watch this show with your teens
I watch this show with my daughter, who is a sophomore in HS. While some of the dialogue is weak, and I don't like the way the counselors (they're on the third one now) and some of the Christians are portayed on the show, it provokes some interesting conversations with my daughter. I remember being her age, all those years ago, and most of what we talked about and thought about was sex. Not much has changed in a lot of ways. I did think the last show about masturbation was over the top, and so did my daughter. But if parents think this show is giving kids ideas that they wouldn't have otherwise, wake up. Kids my daughter knows were having sex, including oral sex, in 8th grade; by their sophomore year many have had multiple partners, and are also drinking and smoking weed. And these are the "good" kids from middle-class intact families. I think this show pretty realistically portrays how teens act and talk, and it's a good conversation starter. We talk about what kids she knows are like which characters, what does she think of the choice a character made, etc.

Adult
July 13, 2009
 
I'm not a prude, but you've got to be kidding. I honestly cannot understand why ABC FAMILY would air this show. The YOUNG teens and adults ALL not only exhibit irresponsible sexual behavior, they talk about it ALL the time. Take Grace for example - who started out by proudly declaring her Christian values. She asks for birth control pills (just to have them) , her mother gets them for her (just in case), then she tells everyone in school. This season she not only has sex with her boyfriend Jack, but she declares it's the BEST experience of her life. Even her minister states sometimes sex before marriage is okay. The dialogue is unrealistic, sexually explicit and laughable. Here's the scary thing teenagers relate to these clean cut, nice looking, middle class youth which makes it a more dangerous program than Rock of Love.

Adult
April 11, 2011
 
Not how teen pregnancy really is
So unrealistic, I was pregnant in highschool and it was nothing like this show made it out to be....happy, happy....cute little babies. On the other hand maybe thats how it is when u have rich parents

Teen, 16 years old
January 5, 2010
 
Honestly the show seems fake in my opinion. The way they talk about sex makes me feel like they are giving a negative message and saying it's okay to have sexual intercourse. The word comes up way to much and they hardly focus on how truly difficult mother hood is. She has all this help from her family members, but in reality, most teen-moms don't have that kind of support. The way the christian once was all for abstinence and no-sex till marriage, then changes her mind and gives away her virginity isn't a very good roll model at all. The mother of this child talks about how she is ready to go off and have sex with another man with no intention of marring him and shortly after her husband had passed away. Then There is a rather promiscuous girl who seems to enjoy having sex with just about anyone who will give it to her, Boyfriend or Not, and with her supposed brother? How gross. The message about sex is way to positive and honestly isn't teaching anything. Just that teens love to have sex and look how the parents do crap about it. Hey I am 16 and sexually active myself but at least my mother discusses way I can prevent myself from getting pregnant and encourages me to use protection. I even chart out my cycle every month so I have an idea when I am fertile. If you are a virgin and you have sex it's not going to last "two seconds" and you are going to know when it happens. Advice to all you 13 year olds posting this show good reviews. Don't let a guy woo his way into your pants and surely if you must USE CONDOMS! or better get birth control, and don't give away your virginity to just anyone. Go watch 16 and pregnant (or Teen Moms, whatever they call it now) on MTV, that should give you a more realistic view on teen pregnancy's. More so then this piece of crap. My boyfriend and I think this show is ridiculous and is giving a horrible message to 13 year olds who shouldn't even be thinking about sex! i have 2 friends at that age and never do I tell them that sex is okay. That's horrible. I advice all parents to not let their children watch this show it's strange,stupid and just not suitable for young teens.

Adult
April 9, 2008
 
NOT for Tweens!
I watched the first episode with my 13yo daughter. Teen sex is all the show is about. The main character, a young 15yo who gets pregnant after the first time she "thinks she did it" is well acted.You feel sorry for her and feel how scared this young girl is. But other than that the show suffers from a lack of creativity or realism. The creators chose to take an easy way out by stereotyping the Christian girl - a Susie-Sunshine fanatic, "promise ring" and all. They missed the opportunity to show the real aspect of church youth groups which are often a place where teens have their values supported, where they talk about all the issues they are faced with (including sex, drugs, relationships etc..) and are taught about giving back and doing service for others less fortunate. The Guidance Counselor is made out to be someone who is annoyed by these kids rather than as someone they could look up to and really go to for guidance. It's just another show that assaults morality and portrays sex to young teens as no big deal and what it's all about. After the first half of the show my daughter looked at me and said, "This is so stupid...no one at school talks about sex like this all the time. It's not what we talk about in front of our lockers...we talk about what tests we have and what homework we have." The show made her uncomfortable and when I asked if she wanted to watch the next episode (we had them on the DVR) she said no.I personally don't feel this is a show for anyone younger than 16yo, but even for them it's a time waster. If you want your older teen to watch a good show that portrays teens realistically, have them watch Friday Night Lights instead!

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