Review

We Need to Talk About Kevin

  • Review Date: December 9, 2011
  • R
  • Genre: Drama
  • 2011

Common Sense Media says

Bleak film about disturbed teen is difficult to watch.
Age
16
Quality
 

  • There's little, if anything, that's positive in this bleak film about a family in which a deeply disturbed teen drives everyone around him to despair. Nobody is happy, nobody comes off well, and there's certainly not a happy ending.
  • Kevin is an unrelentingly hostile child and an even nastier teen who makes every scene in this film overflow with foreboding and gloom. His mother struggles to be supportive and positive but is often overwhelmed and lets her frustration show in the face of his complete contempt, which is obvious from almost the day he's born.
  • The film has more foreboding than actual on-screen violence, yet the atmosphere is so creepy and gloomy that the anticipation might be worse than in other films where viewers actually get to see comparable acts. A woman slaps another woman out of rage, and a frustrated mother slaps a disobedient toddler. She later throws the child across the room, breaking his arm. A young girl loses an eye in an off-screen accident, and a beloved pet guinea pig is dispatched in an unpleasant manner. (Again, it's off-screen but the oppressive atmosphere is still disturbing.) The disturbed child taunts his mother using harsh language and seems to lack all empathy. The film's culmination is a horrific school attack in which bloody teens are shown being wheeled out on stretchers.
  • A few scenes of a couple having simulated sex, with brief partial nudity. A teenage boy is shown from the chest up as he masturbates.
  • Frequent use of strong language includes "f--k," "s--t," "bitch," "ass," and more.
  • Not applicable.
  • A woman drinks plenty of red wine. Later, after a terrible tragedy, she increases her intake significantly, and there are plenty of corks and empty bottles littering her home, along with prescription pills.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that We Need to Talk About Kevin is a bleak drama that centers on a disturbed teen who commits a heinous act. The film's focus is on his mother and how she deals with the aftermath; it also portrays the tense atmosphere in their home as her son grows from a toddler to a high schooler, getting progressively more hostile. There's some swearing (including "f--k" and "s--t") and a few brief sex scenes (plus simulated masturbation), as well as several moments of intense violence, some of which involve a child and others of which include some blood. Most of the actual violence is off-screen, but these scenes are still quite intense, and the movie has a consistently creepy, gloomy atmosphere.


This review of We Need to Talk About Kevin was written by
Age
17
Based on 3 parent & educator reviews:
  • 100% say violence is an issue
  • 100% say language is an issue
  • 67% say sexual content is an issue
  • 33% say there's too much drinking, drugs, or smoking

Most useful reviews by all members

Parent of 5 and 8 year old
January 6, 2012
 
Prepare to be disturbed, especially if you're a parent
Each scenario in We Need To Talk About Kevin is more unsettling and disturbing than the previous one. The interactions between Eva and Kevin are uncomfortable, pitiful, or downright heartbreaking, and any occasional glimmer of hope for these two to form a true mother-son bond is quickly dashed by the next scene. ***** This is one of the most gripping, unnerving horror/thrillers in recent history. It’s extremely powerful, yet very difficult to watch. That goes double if you’re a parent. ***** The film is rated R for “disturbing violence and behavior, some sexuality, and language.” There are several scenes of the aftermath of Kevin’s attack at his high school, with bloody bodies carried out on stretchers. Several people, including a young child, are shown dead by Kevin’s arrows. A few sexual situations are shown in shadows or silhouette, except for one fully lit scene where Eva catches Kevin in a compromising position in the bathroom. In terms of alcohol and drugs, Eva consumes a lot of wine and pills. Ironically, teenagers about Kevin's age and older would be the appropriate audience. ***** Read my full review at: filmfather [dot] blogspot [dot] com.

Adult
January 8, 2012
 
Haunting and terrifying
This movie is disturbing and haunting. This is the story of a mother and how she deals with the violence her son inflicts on others. Tilda Swinton and the rest of the cast play their roles perfectly and it is almost as if you can feel the emotion (or lack thereof with Kevin). Parents especially will most likely cringe and be extremely bothered by certain elements of Kevin's character and actions. Certainly not for kids. Despite that, in my opinion, this is a movie worth seeing. The sheer amount of visual mood and expressions that convey this sense of uneasiness is an incredible cinematic achievement. Although this movie has flown under the radar, this movie will keep you thinking long afterwards. Even through the uneasy, unnerving scenes, this movie is gripping and, as a result, worth seeing.

Adult
June 9, 2012
 
Too slow...
I love these types of films, but I found this one way too slow moving for my taste. Nothing actually happens until the 2nd half of the movie and watching Kevin grow up was nothing special, he just seemed like an ignorant kid who needed some discipline. I was hoping for something actually more disturbing, according to some reviews. Maybe I need to watch it again, but from what I've seen it's not really something that held my attention. Just a heads up for people who may be wanting more thrill or thinking it's an edge-of-your-seat thriller...but it's worth a look anyway.

Teen, 15 years old
July 18, 2012
 
We Need To Talk About This Movie
I convinced my dad to let me watch this movie and we both loved it. It's a disturbing, fairly accurate portrayal of a young psychopath and how a school shooting changes his mother's life. *SPOILERS AHEAD* The movie is about Kevin's mother reflecting on her son's life after Kevin killed several of his classmates. The movie has a scene where she and Kevin's father are having unprotected sex, but no nudity is shown. When Kevin is about five, his mother explains where babies come from, as she is pregnant again, and he blatantly says, "Is this about f***ing?" I've heard a lot of swearing, but I was surprised to hear that out of a five year old's mouth! When Kevin is older his mother catches him masturbating in the bathroom and continues for a few seconds after he is found, looking his mother straight in the eyes. When his mother takes a CD from Kevin's room and puts it in her computer, it becomes infected with a virus and pictures of topless women briefly appear on the screen, along with a blue screen and a creepy clown icon, before the computer crashes. After Kevin's arrest a man who works with Kevin's mother tries to get her to have sex with him. When she declines him, he tells her no one else is going to want her because everyone knows that she's Kevin's mom. Kevin wore diapers until he was about four, and after he went in his clean diaper after his mother changed it, she pushed him against the wall, breaking his arm. Kevin's father buys him a bow and arrow when he's a boy (guns aren't used in this movie) and the bow and arrow is what he uses in the shooting. Several bloody bodies are seen, including the dead bodies of his father and sister. He puts his sister's guinea pig down the garbage disposal and purposefully hits her in the eye with an arrow, leading to her having to have the eye removed. There were several uses of the b word and f word, and one use of the c word. Two women come up to Kevin's mother on the street, and one of the, says, "I hope you burn in hell, b****." Kevin's mother takes him out to dinner one night and he he mentions something about, "Hooking up with some c**t" at school. After Kevin's arrest his mother is seen getting drunk every night and takes pills together, and passes out shortly after. The biggest thing about this movie is how disturbing it is. Kevin's mother is not a good one; when he's about 3 she says to him, "Mommy used to be happy before you were born" and is just not a good mother to Kevin, so he basically sets out to make her life a living hell. When his mother makes a special office for herself Kevin splatters paint all over the room. This kid is definitely a psychopath; he was born without empathy, and his upbringing helped shape his behavior. After the cast from his broken arm gets taken off, his mother wants to go to the store while they're driving in the car, but Kevin taps his once-broken arm, basically implying, "If you don't do what I say I'll tell dad about what really happened." His father babies him and his mother pays hardly any attention to him. Kevin's parents recognize that there's something wrong with their child but they don't do anything about it. When Kevin's mother finds her husband and daughter dead, you come to the realization that Kevin kept her alive so she has to deal with all the hate that'll come from the incident. Kevin's mother is hated and tormented by the whole town while Kevin sits smugly in jail. It's a dark but interesting movie that I think is for mature audiences who can grasp how twisted this movie actually is and appreciate that darkness.

Teen, 16 years old
April 23, 2013
 
Masterful and haunting.
This is officially one of — if not the most — disturbing films I've ever seen. I've always had a fear of children but this utilizes it to the max, and extremely effectively at that. It's very minimalist and that, combined with the masterful acting, creates an almost unbearable sense of dread. Watching Kevin's psychological issues unfold and reach an ultimate peak is darkly thrilling while being actually very sad. The characters are very minimal but are completely full-fledged; that's a testament to the directing and acting. Kevin at times is an anti-hero due to his clearly sick state of mind, yet he's the pinnacle of devious. His mother is a sad, desperate woman trying to save a child, and his father is an ironically optimistic man. It's a film that will leave you feeling cold about life, and that's of the highest praise to the filmmaking. 9.5/10, incredible, two thumbs up, far above average, etc.

Teen, 13 years old
November 11, 2012
 
kevin
This movie was great. It showed a women growing up with son who she never really wanted. As he grows older, he becomes increasingly demonic. The actors are amazing.

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